Everyone, on their wedding day, is free to choose every detail of the event which concerns one of the most important days of their life: from the type of place they dream of, to the colors of the decorations, through the theme to be chosen for the reception, the menu to offer, the dress you want to wear, even the guests. This is perhaps the trickiest part and the one that could create some issues. If, in fact, some couples choose to involve family members, friends, and acquaintances without excluding anyone, others are not of this opinion. This is the case of this bride who, on Reddit, explained that she did not want to invite old people to her wedding, asking users if she should feel like a bad person because of it.
The woman explained that she is 30 and about to marry her 31-year-old fiancé, with whom she is planning every detail of the big day.
“We both have large families, so we’re trying to figure out how to fit our guest list into our budget. Our grandparents are all over 80 and not very fit anymore, they need to be looked after. and need special attention. I don’t want it to ruin our wedding. I don’t want them to be a distraction and I have a feeling that if they are around, the guests will pay more attention to them than ours.”
The future bride therefore fears that the four elderly people will cause problems, thus spoiling the event and, above all, stealing the show from the two main protagonists: the husband and the wife. This is why, by mutual agreement, the bride and groom chose to exclude their respective grandparents from the guest list , but they did not stop there: the rule was extended to the entire group considered by them. as “aged”, so as not to make the true intention manifest.
“My fiancé and I have decided that we don’t want anyone over 70 at our wedding and we are making a rule of thumb to make it fairer for everyone. I think they would be bored anyway and that ‘they will be more comfortable at home, and it’s an opportunity for the caregiver to get out, relax and have fun.”